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Two Weeks in Bucerías: Heatwaves, Lost Phones, and Poolside Bliss

We’ve officially wrapped up our first two weeks in Bucerías, Mexico—and aside from one frantic hiccup, it’s been exactly the kind of reset I was hoping for.

Let’s start with the drama: About 30 minutes ago, we got back to our apartment from the grocery store and realized I’d left my phone in the taxi. Cue panic. We grabbed another cab and raced back to the grocery where we’d been picked up, only to find out that our driver had picked up someone else and was now stuck in Puerto Vallarta’s rush-hour traffic—going the opposite direction. Of course. My phone is basically my camera and lifeline, so the idea of having to deal with Apple insurance and wait for a replacement was… less than thrilling. Thankfully, just as I was finishing this post, the driver returned with my phone. All is well in the world again. Faith in humanity: intact.

Aside from that chaotic moment, Bucerías has been a mixed but mostly beautiful experience. Admittedly, I wasn’t all that impressed on our first evening walk. We passed a few crumbling buildings, lots of trash, and got some distinct “developing country” vibes. But the next outing, we took a different route and stumbled upon charming cobblestone streets, vibrant homes, and colonial architecture that reminded me of St. Augustine. It’s clear the town is evolving—condos are going up everywhere—and it’ll be interesting to see what it becomes in the next few years.

We haven’t explored much—partly due to the heat (pale, bald gingers don’t thrive in 100+ degrees), and partly because we’re not in the market for souvenirs. Still, the small-town charm and splashes of color have made an impression.

We’ve also managed to mix in a little adventure. One night, we booked the Marigalante Pirate Ship experience in Puerto Vallarta—and while it may sound kitschy, it was a surprisingly entertaining evening. The show was high-energy and filled with humor, acrobatics, sword fights, and dancing—definitely more geared toward adults than kids. Dinner was fine (nothing to write home about), but the fireworks over the bay were a highlight, and our host made the whole night even more enjoyable. If you’re in the area and looking for something fun and theatrical, it’s worth checking out.

Another standout outing was a rooftop drag brunch that quickly became one of the highlights of our trip. Bottomless mimosas flowed freely, the queens were fierce, and the go-go boys? Let’s just say they were easy on the eyes. The energy was electric, the views of the city and ocean were incredible, and the atmosphere felt like a true celebration of Pride. In one unforgettable moment, Nick—never one to shy away from the spotlight—jumped up and replaced one of the go-go dancers mid-set. It was hysterical. I haven’t laughed that hard in ages. There’s something magical about sipping bubbly in the sun, surrounded by joy, laughter, and community.

On the home front, I had a small but proud personal victory: I made homemade guacamole for the first time. Simple ingredients, nothing fancy—but it turned out delicious. There’s something satisfying about making something fresh with your own hands, especially when it pairs perfectly with poolside margaritas and chips.

One restaurant, in particular, deserves a shoutout: Karen’s Place. Founded by a woman from the U.S. who fell in love with this part of Mexico decades ago, it’s become a staple—and for good reason. Friendly staff, strong cocktails, and standout dishes like their Bruschetta Italiana and the unforgettable Chile en Nogada made the experience special. That dish—stuffed poblano peppers with pork, beef, fruit, and a walnut cream sauce—was a revelation. Like Mexican autumn on a plate. I will be going back.

Another night we dined at Adauto’s, where we sat literally five feet from the ocean. The waves crashing, birds calling, warm breeze—absolutely magical. The food was good, not great, but the setting made it a very memorable dinner.

Most days have been slow and peaceful—lounging by the pool, reading, scrolling, sipping drinks, and avoiding U.S. news whenever possible. This isn’t the space for politics, but if you know me, you know I’m relieved to be away right now. To those back home navigating tough times—stay strong. Stay aware. And protect the dolls.

We’ve been lucky to have family join us for most of our stay. Casey’s sister Brittney and her boyfriend Nick arrived the day after we did and stayed a week. Our highlight? A chaotic, laugh-until-you-cry game night playing Taco, Cat, Goat, Cheese, Pizza. It’s simple, silly, and with Nick’s epic sore-loser energy, absolutely hilarious. I have an entire album of him competing with Brittney for a title that technically doesn’t exist: “not last place.”

After they left, Casey’s brother Dustyn and his boyfriend Patrick flew in. Chill vibes continued—we had some great dinners, including our first visit to Karen’s Place, and used ResortPass to spend a day at Secrets Resort. Luxurious pools, endless food, and adult beverages in abundance (within reason). I had no idea ResortPass was a thing, but now I’m a fan.

Time is wonderfully slippery here. I woke up this morning thinking it was Sunday. Spoiler: it’s Monday. But honestly, that’s the goal. For the first time in my adult life, no one’s telling me where I have to be or when. I sleep when I want, work out when I feel like it, blog when inspiration hits, and lounge guilt-free. It’s the freedom I didn’t know I needed until I had it.

Speaking of working out—yes, I’ve been going to the gym nearly every day. I’m not measuring progress, but I feel better: more energy, less stress, and slowly, maybe, a little less soft around the middle. Casey’s about 5 years ahead of me in his fitness journey, so I’m just trying to catch up. Or at least not fall too far behind.

All in all, this sabbatical is shaping up exactly how I hoped it would. We’ve got two more weeks here—just the two of us—before the whirlwind of Europe begins. I plan to soak in every slow, sun-drenched, sweat-filled moment.

Until next time—Be Kind to One Another..

P.S. Thank you, Matt B., for encouraging me to blog even when life isn’t all adventure and adrenaline. Sometimes, the quiet moments are just as worth sharing.

The Light In Me – A Soundtrack for Starting Over

Curated with purpose, heart, and a little rebellion.

This isn’t just a playlist—it’s the sound of transition. A mix of anthems, heartbreakers, quiet revelations, and bold declarations that helped me navigate the space between who I was and who I’m becoming. Each song holds a piece of this journey: the release, the resistance, the clarity, the calling.

PART 1: The Stirring – Feeling the Shift

  • Kacey Musgraves – Deeper Well
    A gentle reminder that you can outgrow things—and that’s okay. Growth begins in stillness.
  • Lizzy McAlpine – Reckless Driving
    That in-between space where you know something’s changing, but you’re not quite sure where it’s going.
  • Ariana Grande & Cynthia Erivo – Defying Gravity
    A reclaiming of self. A refusal to be held back.
  • Taylor Swift – The Smallest Man Who Ever Lived
    Letting the hurt be known, even when you’re the one choosing to walk away.
  • Taylor Swift – So Long, London
    A mournful goodbye to a version of life that once felt like home.

PART 2: The Leap – Running Toward the Unknown

  • Glass Animals – On the Run
    The pulse of escape and excitement—running toward something, not away.
  • Orville Peck – Let Me Drown
    A moody reckoning. Leaning into emotion without needing to be rescued.
  • Taylor Swift – Who’s Afraid of Little Old Me?
    Confidence reborn in defiance. You are not to be underestimated.
  • Britney Spears – Passenger
    Surrendering control and trusting the road ahead.
  • Walk the Moon – Surrender
    Not defeat, but release.

PART 3: The Reckoning – Rebuilding in the Unknown

  • Labrinth – The Feels
    Sensory overload—joy, anxiety, awe. Everything, all at once.
  • Kelly Clarkson – I Won’t Give Up
    That quiet promise you make to yourself, when no one else is listening.
  • Adele – I Drink Wine
    Processing life with brutal honesty and a glass in hand.
  • Alanis Morissette – Diagnosis
    Naming the things you’ve struggled to say out loud.
  • Birdy – Wings
    Grief meets beauty. The moment you realize you’re still capable of flight.
  • Bishop Briggs – Champion
    The comeback begins.

PART 4: The Becoming – Finding Your Fire Again

  • Bleachers – Don’t Take the Money
    A chaotic, cinematic anthem of self-worth.
  • The Chicks – Not Ready to Make Nice
    When healing doesn’t mean silence.
  • Christine and the Queens – Tilted
    Owning your quirk, your queerness, your power.
  • Demi Lovato & Noah Cyrus – Easy
    The ache of starting over—and the freedom in it.
  • Rina Sawayama & Elton John – Chosen Family
    A love letter to those who truly see you.

PART 5: The Rise – Light, Loud and Unapologetic

  • Zoe Wees – Control
    Vulnerability is strength. This is your power.
  • Imagine Dragons – Birds
    Parting ways and trusting the sky.
  • Judah & The Lion – Why Did You Run?
    The questions we ask when we start telling our story aloud.
  • Kelly Clarkson – Breakaway
    Classic. Literal. Necessary.
  • Lady Gaga – Million Reasons
    The war between staying and stepping forward.
  • Lil Nas X – Life After Salem
    Raw, honest, powerful. Queer rage and rebirth.
  • Panic! At the Disco – Hey Look Ma, I Made It
    A wink and a win.
  • Selena Gomez – Lose You to Love Me
    A ballad of self-redemption.
  • Shinedown – Daylight
    The first full breath in a long time.
  • Taylor Swift – Mad Woman
    Because anger has its place—and so does your voice.